AVOIDING CONFLICT

Then Joab went to Geshur and brought Absalom back to Jerusalem. But the king said, “He must go to his own house; he must not see my face.” So Absalom went to his own house and did not see the face of the king.
2 SAMUEL 14:23-24
Many people hate conflict to the extent that they will never confront a wrong. Taking this path, though, will only lead to later hardship. Such was the case for Absalom and his father, King David.
 
Amnon, also a son of David, raped his sister Tamar. When this happened, David was furious but did not punish Amnon for his actions. Absalom, on the other hand, saw this as a terrible injustice for his sister and plotted to kill Amnon at the right time. He patiently waited for two years before he set up a situation to have him killed.
 
After Amnon’s death, David was heartbroken and held Absalom responsible. At the same time, David desired to have a relationship with Absalom, but because he failed to address the situation with Amnon when it happened, it led to more serious consequences in the family. Absalom was banished for three years because of David’s anger toward him, and his banishment allowed seeds of resentment to grow in his heart. Absalom then conspired to overthrow David’s kingdom.
 
David and Absalom’s example shows us that it is imperative to confront problems when they arise no matter how uncomfortable it might be. We are called to speak the truth in love (see Ephesians 4:15-16). Failure to confront in love allows the enemy to sow greater seeds of conflict.
Is there someone in your life that you need to confront in love? Make plans now to get with this person and work through the issues that divide you.

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