Continue your love to those who know you, your righteousness to the upright in heart.
PSALM 36:10

Someone once said, “Success is when those who know you the best are those who love you the most.”
Years ago, a man named Jahari developed a self-assessment tool that can help us understand how we relate to others. This tool, known as the Jahari Window, allows us to realize where we are in our ability to know who we are and for others to know who we are. Real transparency in communication takes place when those with whom we associate know who we are after we discover who we really are. See if you can identify in which category you might fall among these four.
Transparent life. People who lead transparent lives know who they are and others know them for who they are. Nothing is hidden. They have come to know who they are as individuals. Basically, people get what they see in them. The transparent life is the life we should desire.
Bull in the china shop. People who lead this type of life are blinded to the character flaws that others recognize in them. In order to become a transparent person, they must get feedback from those around them about the blind spots in their personality. They must ask for the feedback and be willing to respond to the input of others.
Aloof/hidden secrets. These individuals live in a secret world. They don’t allow others to know about themselves. They know themselves but are fearful of letting others know them.
Hidden potential. This is a combination of the bull in the china shop and aloof/hidden secrets personalities. It is the saddest of all conditions. These people don’t know themselves, and others don’t know them either. Both parties have to invest the energy to communicate and get feedback from one another.
How about you? What do others really know about you? Have you allowed yourself to get close enough to others to share who you really are inside? Why not take a step to find out who you really are in the eyes of others. It could change your life.

Hillman, O. (2011). Tgif: today god is first. Grand Rapids, MI: Revell.

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